Curtis DA, Hart CL. And engaging with a pathological or compulsive liar repeatedly over time can cause you to question whats real, which can be destabilizing, she says. Are You Dating Someone with Dependent Personality Disorder? Compulsive Liar By Elizabeth Hartney, BSc, MSc, MA, PhD )that you feel like you are going nuts by allowing them to continue feeding you their stuff. You might be aware of the lying, but you might be wondering why theyd lie, and be frustrated that they dont seem to see thatyou want to helpthem. The Nuts and Bolts of Emotional Sobriety. Scientific American, 2012. A major part that baffles me is that there is no interest in gaining my trust. I think experts and therapists need to realize that the other people in the lives of a BPD can only take so much. Compulsive to Recover From Being Cheated, Lied to, or Many will say that they do care and feel remorse, so I dont necessarily think its because they dont care(though it can sure seem like it at times with the things that they can say or do to people. Medical Reviewers confirm the content is thorough and accurate, reflecting the latest evidence-based research. People do get frustrated and angry at the behaviors, especially when it continues and the BPD refuses to do something about it. We rely on the most current and reputable sources, which are cited in the text and listed at the bottom of each article. I love her, but Im losing this battle to insecurity. While pathological and compulsive liars may have different overarching motivations, Dr. Durvasula suggests proceeding with caution in a relationship with either. People with addiction may lie about whether they use certain substances or engage in certain behaviors. In fact, some are impulsively honest, which can create its own problems. Mention in a kind and positive way what you would like to see happening instead of the addictive behavior, preferably before the addictive behavior becomes part of your routine. I have dated a bpd guy for 13 months after being single for 5 years. If you are being lied to, try to stay grounded, limit interactions, and set healthy boundaries. In some ways, someone with an addiction may be stubborn. Do not let lies prevent you, or your loved one, fromfinding treatment solutionsand a path toward recovery.