3. Whether thats in a sympathy card, at a funeral or what to say to a loved one after a loss, we aim to provide you with everything you need to make something many of us find so difficult much simpler. You havent even grieved the first loss before the next. May they remain in the boundless equanimity, free from both attachment to close ones and rejection of others. And youll notice that a line of this prayer relates to suffering and its causes, which could include illness: May all beings have happiness and the cause of happiness. Reply to Dan. I simply cannot put into words my thanks and gratitude for the time and effort they gave to this subject and, most of all, for me anyways, the way they presented suggestions and alternative language to used based on the type of relationship between me and the deceased person. There really arent words to convey true grief. Instead, tell them what you are going to do for them, and then do it. Who or what post are you commenting on? Accept, What You Can Say Instead of Sending Thoughts and Prayers, What You Can Do Instead of Sending Thoughts and Prayers, Whether youre commenting on a social media post, comforting someone in person, or want to say or do something meaningful, there are many different ways to let someone know you are. Its the heart felt sincerity of the message. (This also makes sure they dont drown their sorrows and drink the whole bottle.). April 6, 2021. I asked everyone close to me to not mention my child on social media. Someone is with the grieving to assist with answing the phone, recieve visitors, answer questions, and to be company when it gets quiet, and help with funeral arrangements. When someone is grieving, the world continues to spin, and they are often responsible for an overwhelming amount of things. After the passing of our son there were so very many friends of his that we barely knew but when they shared moments of their times with him from camping to playing music or volunteering to help someone it did lighten my spirit. You know that any given day would be a good day to send loving thoughts and memories, because every day they are thinking of their loss. It is okay to let someone know that you empathize with their pain, and yet dont have the words to express this sadness. Or, they use that little prayer hands emoticon. Thank you. When someone is hurting, sick, or struggling, we can stand in the gap for them. Praying is just a way to do nothing and still feel good about yourself. People wanting from me even my time- is a huge drain of energy I do not have. This is a very personal one. I also heard someone say "When you die you really just move over and make room for someone else." This prayer written by Joanna Fuchs doesnt mention a religious deity or ideology. My house is not clean and I dont want you to come in. Share. Can be looked at whenever and however many times needed. Again, loved your input. I am a thousand winds that blow. We have a post-loss checklistthat will help you ensure that your loved one's family, estate, and other affairs are taken care of. As a mother who lost 2 children I believe your in my thoughts and prayers is the most appropriate response. This poem by Christine Evangelou might help inspire strength when your loved one needs it most.