That is, the feelings are being projected outwardly onto other people or things. A thoughts-feelings-behavior triangle is an exercise you can try either with a therapist or on your own, says Richardson. He sent flowers and then showed up with his mother to the funeral home and the at the service the next day alone and proceeded to go to the wake and sit with mutual friends and act like the caring concerned person he wanted everyone to think he was. I went through your same situation. I want so badly for him to feel the hurt that I feel. Thats totally fine in moderation [but it] can make it hard to get the chance to experience positive emotions.. High levels of narcissistic rivalry were linked to greater sadness and anxiety after breakup and more negative perceptions of ex-partners. I messaged him begging to understand. No awful people. I did the begging etcbut in a 24hour period this woman had turned into this cold, vindictive cruel person(she normally had not been like that to me during our 5-year live in relationship. I wish it would end. The problem was that I still thought I was dealing with a normal person. But the final (it really is final for me, this time) break-up with my N has been so difficult for me because in other relationships, I never had to question whether my ex ever had any real feelings, ever loved me, or if any moment was genuine. Thank you for listening to me. How To Move On From A Breakup By Grieving Fully - YourTango CBT helps you create healthy thoughts, use helpful coping skills, and take value-based action [so] you can move through the fear and grief of the lost relationship.. I should have never let him know I cared. While often painful, relationship splits can offer a unique. 4) I had developed this feeling that she will not even acknowledge my love. This behavior makes me feel important and gives me Narcissistic supply. Its been 2 years since my last interaction with the idiot, but he put me through a year of hell and the second year I was crazy lady. Ac. Accept the . -they tell other people this and are inspired by the encounter to begin fabricating and sharing other disparaging lies about you (like you are crazy- narcs love to call their exes crazy); Long story short, I broke up with my Narc about a month ago. We moved from my apartment 2/15 and he proceeded to get us kicked out of the new place after 10 months. I actually copied and emailed it to myself so that I can look at it when Im not feeling great. Look how youre acting. You said you moved on with your life and I appreciate all the technique and suggestion youre giving on this blog, BUT did you find another man that you really like? On Friday, April 25 hes screaming at me to quit texting, emailing, calling & leave him alone. Its not the truth. My siblings and I were exhausted being at the hospital and nursing home on a regular basis. This redirect of your thoughts can help you focus on what you have, such as your relationships with friends and family, instead of on what you have lost. I almost contacted him to say, If ever you feel desperate I didnt. I am seeing a side to me that I did not know existed. Just would like to get close to him, and I left his apartment which Ive found for him , and decorated for him, with all my stuff, ready to go back -10 months ago. This is never the answer, dont do things when you are in a fit of rage. However, it did make me feel better. And I went to Google (too late) to see if what she had called him were true.