That is so dysfunctional. I bet when he does NT want o shower thats ok to he will when he feels like it in his lifetime. Anecdotal data indicates that children today have higher levels of anxiety than previous generations. Age 20! He ditched school and was a bully when he went. He was my daddy, and the time we had together will always be kept very close to heart. (Questions may be edited.). I just get the sex. If before a certain age like 5 or 6 OK but when they really start getting used to the world and gaining their own identity they should not be in your bed especially if one of the parents has to leave then its like they are taking the place of the other parent and creating a type of bond that should be more so between husband and wife there is no way I or anyone in my entire family have allowed this even if someone tired the older generation would have stepped in immediately a child needs to learn independence this seems like its more for the condoning parent than the child son/daughter neice/nephew cousins after a certain age you not in the same bed as the parents especially if you have your own bedroom I mean your the parent you supposed to set boundaries its not about being fun or cool thats not what life is about and only going to do harm in the long run I cant believe its so many people condoning this behavior I literally come from a place where it was less of a choice and arrangements still were made even if we was in the same room at one point personally Im the oldest of 3 my sis is 2 years younger we had our own room we shared at a point but I couldnt wait for the day where I had my own room and only wanted to sleep in my parents room if I had a nightmare or something and even then I remember waking up in my own bed so for people to have a choice and continue to have their kids sleep in the bed with them especially as a couple and have the option of them having their own room is just so off to me I would think it would hinder a lot with them developing as well rounded and adjusted adults you couldnt go to any school and let someone know you still sleep in your parents bed they would get bullied and made fun of so bad if they can talk and use the bathroom on their own they too old to be in your bed I dated a girl who would let her daughter just barge in the room and unlock the door when it was lo ked and sleep in our bed if I wasnt there and sometimes tried when I was and it was so weird and off-putting made me not want to be around the child although I kept it cordial to the kid as best as possible but ultimately completely turned me off mentally emotionally and physically with the mother it was almost like it was the kids room and they was a couple kind of like a codependency they definitely shouldnt be in your bed hitting their preteens either you just making them a target for all types of things that once they leave the false safety of that bed and house that youre giving them is going to make it hard for them in so many ways I actually feel bad for these kids cause its not really their fault its bad training from a young age and just not how the family dynamics work to create the most positive and productive outcome. Sorry but for all you parents out there if you have not bonded with your young boy or girl by the time they are 9 10 11 or 12 you have issues not them..more problems to come.. And the sooner these things begin the better off the kids will be in the future. When should a parent stop bathing with their child? - MadeForMums Most children want more privacy when they hit puberty, so it's extremely unlikely that a child would want to share a bed with her parents beyond the age of 13, says Judy Arnall, author of "Discipline without Distress" in the article "School-Age Children and the Family Bed" for "The Attached Family."